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Relationship Deal Breakers Part 3
The one deal breaker above all that has no loop holes is physical abuse. You hear stories of women who stay with their men despite being beaten on a moment's whim. I can't think of any violent situation that can be acceptable. There is no excuse for this. If you have been viciously mistreated in any way then call the police immediately and disappear from their lives with your dignity intact.
In some cases it will take a person a while to notice strange qualities within their partner. If you have been dating for over a month and you still feel as though your boy/girlfriend is very mysterious then most likely there is a reason for it. Do they seem distant? Do they walk away from you to take all of their phone calls and don't bother telling you who was on the other end? Have they ever disappeared for as little as a day without a word of warning? Do some of your questions go unanswered? If any of this sounds familiar to you and it happens fairly often then its better that you leave your confusion behind. Even if they aren't keeping something hidden from you they definitely are not letting you into their world.
If your partner is persistently putting you down, making you feel bad about yourself or guilty then understand that they don't respect you. Perhaps they are sexist or maybe they act superior to you and this is extreme trouble. We live in the twenty first century and you don't deserve this mental and verbal abuse. So realize that you don't have to take it no matter what. Stand up to them because you need to recognize that they don't feel that you are their equal. In this case it's true though, because apparently they are the ones that are beneath you.
A lot of these deal breakers aren't written in stone. Everyone has their flaws and different circumstances arise in life. You can decide for yourself what your own priorities may be. Mostly you need to gather hard evidence to know for sure that they have mistreated you. But if you can't find any proof but have a feeling then always go with your gut. If there is a deep love between the two of you then depending on the situation, it might make more sense to see the rough times through. Always let them know how they hurt you. If they really care about being with you then they will seek help whether through therapy or rehab. Keep in mind that you are not being severely disrespected because of what you did but because of deep rooted insecurities that lie within your partner. And remember that Forgiveness is an act of strength.
Saturday, November 15, 2008
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