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Relationship Deal Breakers Part 2

Everybody has their personal dreams and goals that they want to achieve in their lifetime.  If you begin to find that your partner doesn't support your ambitions then you might want to think twice about why you are really with them.  I am not saying that there shouldn't be any compromise between the two of you.  If you have to put off your dreams for a couple of years because neither of you can afford it yet then there is no hold up. 
When it starts to get serious sit down with your partner and talk about a plan.  If they are as involved in your desires as they are with their own then the topic will get thoroughly discussed and everyone will feel reassured.

Do you constantly find yourself having to repeat your thoughts and stories to your partner?  Do they cut you off in the middle of your sentences?  On the other hand it might just be that they don't get you.  You might be asking them a question and they reply to you with an unrelated answer.  It may be that there is a deep miscommunication between the both of you.  Whatever it happens to be it sounds like neglect.  If it happens frequently then consider that they aren't interested in what you have to say.

The leading of all deal breakers would have to be cheating. It is a slap in the face to you, your trust, whatever you built in your relationship, and their integrity. The moment they cheated there should be no second chances. If you give a second chance, you're allowing bad behavior and welcoming disloyalty. You need to leave them and just walk away with your self-respect.

Having a substance abuse problem is a big deal. Priorities get shifted around and the drugs consume the person's life.  Usually this will drive someone to lie and steal in order to feed their addiction.  It's an expensive and life threatening habit that you don't need to be around.  Unless this is a tendency that you have together, it's a deal breaker.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

 

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